S5E11: Navigating Life's Challenges with Emotional Resilience, with Michelle Phillips

“Keep positive, put energy and enthusiasm into everything you do, and you will always have more power than you think.” - Michelle Phillips

If you're feeling overwhelmed by negative emotions and struggling to navigate life's challenges, then you are not alone! If you find yourself constantly jumping from one negative emotion to another, feeling stuck and unable to find positivity, then you are not alone! If you're struggling to manage your emotions and find yourself constantly chasing the next source of relief, then you are not alone! If you're looking for a way to climb the emotional ladder one rung at a time and regain control of your emotions, then you are not alone!

In this episode, you will learn about:

• Mastering emotions for personal growth: Uncover the secret to emotional resilience and personal development.
• Boosting productivity through positive habits: Discover how positivity breeds productivity.
• The impact of communication in corporate success: Learn the power of effective communication in achieving corporate success.
• Strategies for coping with grief and loss: Explore effective coping strategies for navigating grief and loss.
• Building a personal brand as an author and speaker: Unveil the key strategies for author and speaker branding success.

Michele Phillips, President of Key Performance, boasts a triumphant 25-year entrepreneurial voyage that has etched an enduring mark on the corporate world. Her acclaimed book ‘Happiness is a Habit’ – Simple Daily Rituals That Increase Energy, Improve Well-being, and Add Joy to Every Day still ranks on Amazon today, ten years after Cedar Fort Publishing published it.

Beyond titles, Michele’s power lies in personal connections. A corporate workshop leader and private coach, she defies categorization, bridging personal and corporate spheres.

With 20+ years of experience, Michele has guided Fortune 500 giants worldwide, including TAG Heuer, Pfizer, Verizon, Schott, Nomura, Barclays, and The PGA, to name a few.

A happiness and performance expert, she blends neuroscience, habits, and positive psychology, offering an actionable formula for success.

Transcript:

00:00:03
Welcome to your Next Stop podcast.

00:00:08
Welcome back to your Next stop. This is Juliet Hahn. And I say it every single time. I'm so excited to share someone that has followed a passion. And so welcome Michelle Phillips.

00:00:18
How are you? I am fantastic and excited to talk to you. I know, I love it. So I'm going to preface, I'm first going to have everyone because I know people love to go kind of look at websites and look at Instagrams and stuff like that. So you're website is key to like the number unlock.com and your Instagram is key performance.

00:00:38
Yes. And I have a brand new landing page which is easier to find. Energizeyourresults.com I love that. Okay, perfect. And then they can find you on LinkedIn and Facebook all the places.

00:00:50
But you are. If someone's like, okay, what do you do? You are considered in many worlds, the light lady, which we're going to get into. And you are an author. You.

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I know you're, you're, I mean, your, your first book, incredible. You're, I think out with your second or it's still coming out, right? You're almost out. We're recording right now, recording the audio. Oh, my God, I love that so much.

00:01:13
And then you're a workshop leader and you do so many, I mean, keynote speaker. They can see, you know, all the stuff that you have done and do and like so many angles and different ways that I want to take this because you've been on the podcast before and what I, what I'm doing right now, which is kind of fun is I have some of like my favorite guests from previous episodes. So you were, I think I want to say, like season one or season two. I mean, you were in the beginning and it's really fun to see and go back and listen and then see where you've grown. And not only, you know, did I have you on episode, you know, one, you were really early on.

00:01:54
I mean, within the first hundred. I mean, it was like, you know, my first year, which I was just loving. We are also neighbors and so that's also fun because we also get to see each other. I mean, we haven't gotten to walk this summer because we both have been all over the place, but we also get to catch up. And one of the things that is so important and why I love kind of you and your energy is like we really connect and we really kind of feed off of each other and we like kind of brain dump on each other and then go.

00:02:19
And you, you've been doing this, the space that you're in for years. I mean, years and years. So 25. Yes. If I'm counting.

00:02:26
But who's counting, right? But it's fun for, like, so you guys can go back and listen. Michelle Phillips, her podcast episode. I want to. And I really should have probably.

00:02:36
I had it. I think when we first recorded. We did. We had bad. Like, this is.

00:02:39
We've done this now a couple of times for this episode. And so it's kind of like, okay, it wasn't meant to happen. It wasn't meant to happen. I do have it somewhere. So it will be in the show notes.

00:02:48
But if they want to hear kind of your history and where you are. But I kind of want to jump into something that's so beautiful about you is the way that you look at life. You sit when you need to sit. You kind of. You allow feelings, but you also don't sit in feelings too long.

00:03:10
And you know how to kind of work through all of them. And you're really good at talking about it. So, like, one of the things you know, and my listeners know, my son's going off to college, and you and I have just had some really good conversations. But this year, you lost your father, and that was a really, really hard thing. And I remember one of the things that you said to me, and I was like, oh, my gosh, I love the way Michelle looks at life.

00:03:32
You're like, I'm really sad. I'm really sad. But I choose to also look for signs to know that he is here and know that he's with me. And that's how I choose to live through this grieving process. And I was like, oh, my God, I love that.

00:03:46
I love that. Because that is a mindset I have. But you always don't know it. Sometimes when you're in it, sometimes it's too heavy. So I know we're going to start kind of heavy, but because this is.

00:03:57
I mean, we just said you're the light lady, and I mean, so you can really work with people and talk to people about kind of this. These hard times. And so can you kind of take me through when I said that to you, do you remember that conversation we had? Yes. And you said so many great things, and we've had so many conversations about stuffing our feelings versus.

00:04:17
I think that's your word that I'm taking. Yeah. Versus processing them. Because the feelings are all okay. I just watched Inside out, too, this weekend, and have you seen it?

00:04:29
I haven't seen two But I've seen. One because she becomes a teenager, and it's like, here's your new emotions. Anxiety and embarrassment. And it's so fun. So the point of the movie, too, is all the emotions are meant to be felt, but it's about sitting with them too long and being able to process them versus ignore them.

00:04:49
So my dad's death just proved to me even more that the things that I teach work. I had been dreading this my whole adult life. Just. I used to think about it and just break down into tears thinking, how can I live on this earth without this man who's my heart and soul? And then when it actually happens and I found myself stronger than I ever imagined, I knew he was pouring his strength into me.

00:05:15
I knew that he was still there with me. And I. The quote I kept saying during the whole thing was, I could be strong and sad at the same time. Yeah, I could do hard things. I can, you know, be with my mother, be with my sister.

00:05:28
We could cry, we could laugh, we could curse. But I'm choosing to focus on the fact that he is now my chief. What did I call him? My chief. Oh, my God.

00:05:37
I went out of my head a chief operating angel. That's what I started calling him. He's my chief operating angel, and he's here with me. And he's here literally here with me on my desktop. So it's.

00:05:48
It's how you look at everything in life. And the things that kept me going were. None of us is meant to be here forever. And if you believe in God or universe, I always, to me, I say, God knows what he's doing. So for me to question that someone's life at 83 should be over is not up for me to decide.

00:06:05
It's up for me to decide how I handle it. And that's where the crux of all my work comes in. So to see my mom, my sister and I, I mean, again, was a devastating loss, but one we knew was coming. When someone gets that age and then to be able to process it and be there for each other and support each other and keep moving forward has been the gift of this, everything I've been practicing my whole life, works. Yeah.

00:06:32
And I so appreciate it. And it's. It's interesting that you brought in Inside Out. So one of my closest friends, the one that died, Susie, that died from frontal lobe dementia, you told me about her. That was one of her favorite movies.

00:06:44
And especially as she was really suffering from frontal lobe dementia, we would always put on the movie. And she would watch it, but it was one of her kids favorite movies. So before she really suffered for frontal lobe dementia, she would watch that. So every time I'm like, can I watch it now? Oh, I don't know if I'm in the headspace to watch it because it.

00:07:03
Brings up different feelings and memories for you. Yes. And as my oldest is going off to college, I was like, I don't think I need to bring any more feelings into this. When he goes off to university and I'm sitting and I'm like, okay, you know what? I want to think of Susie and think, you know, think of all these things.

00:07:18
I'm going to watch it, but I just have not and then a reason for it. So I love how you said all that, Michelle. And can you take us through a little bit of like your. I want to preface, like, your first book and how your first book came about because of the work that you were doing in the field. Yeah.

00:07:36
So I've been doing this, gosh, 25 years. I started as a sales rep and then doing sales training for Verizon Wireless. I started my own business in 2000 when I spoke at a grad class at Fordham and this woman heard me speak. And then she hired me for her company. And it's been off to the races ever since.

00:07:54
So my first book, Happiness is a Habit, is based on the habits of happy people. Mentally, physically, spiritually, and emotionally. What are you doing for your life? And this was through my own, my own process in my early 20s. I wanted to be fit, right?

00:08:10
I wanted to be pretty and skinny and, you know, so I started learning how to work out. Then I learned how to eat. So I had the physical, right? Then there's the emotional. I had a very bad temper when things didn't go my way.

00:08:21
I yelled, I screamed, I threw things. And so I had to deal with my emotions inside out. Then there was mental, physical, emotional and spiritual. So as I was learning to manage my energy, which is what's about my second book is about, I found that I had habits that kept me in a really good feeling zone. And that's where happiness as a habit came about.

00:08:44
If you have really good positive habits in those four areas, you feel better. And I had been giving the seminar for years before I wrote the book. So writing the book was easy. People kept saying, do you have a book? I mean, back in the day, do you have cassettes?

00:08:59
That's how long I've been doing this. But I wrote the book very quickly. And then you Know, fast forward, I don't even know. Ten years ago, I started another book. So this book came out in 2013, so.

00:09:10
So a couple years after that, I started writing another book. And the political craziness and the violence in our world and the, you know, social media pushing everybody together and every. I started writing this book that turned into like a 250 page rant about my feelings. Talk about inside out. I let it all out and my editor said to me, what is this, Michelle?

00:09:31
And I said, okay. So I. Back to the drawing board. I put it down. And the new book is really good for the time we're in now.

00:09:38
It's managing your energy, managing your emotions, whether it's the political climate or your son going off to college. These are emotions and they're normal, they're natural. And you know, I've seen moms have a meltdown and still, you know, want their kids with them the rest of their life. And I've seen moms say, wow, I did a really good job and I'm so proud of them. Still miss them, right?

00:09:59
It's okay to have two emotions. Totally. I miss you, but I trust you. I miss you, but I'm happy for you. So it's really living in that space.

00:10:07
And I think what's happened in society is we maybe not even the people I meet, it's more the media, they want to put us in these black and white categories and those don't exist in real life. No. And it's so true. And that's one of the things I think is so interesting with managing emotions like that. I'm so excited for him.

00:10:25
He has worked so hard. I'm so excited. But then I have this like, heartbreaking feeling and I'm like, I don't. Like, this is so weird. It's like two emotions.

00:10:33
And as humans, we are not really taught how to do that. So I love that you're doing that. And I love, you know, on our walks, you always would, you know, talk about like, oh, I, you know, just. And you would give me like little tidbits of, I just worked at this company, right? Like, so can you take us through a little bit of like, what a company would hire you for and like, where that kind of evolved because it really, I mean, it spiraled.

00:10:59
Like, it was so cool. You'd be like, oh, yes. And then I talked here and then this happened here and we talk about. And as we continue this conversation about kind of following that curiosity of like, okay, that just happened. This person reached out to me Let me kind of explore this and see.

00:11:17
And that's really what has happened with your career. And then you've been able to kind of watch that kind of happen with mine, which is so fun for us to be able to do and for us to be able to have this conversation. So if you can take us through a little bit, what you do in corporations and then where that led to, then, like the workbook. I mean, the workshop and all of that, we'll get into. Yeah.

00:11:37
So I mentioned earlier that I had a bad temper. And there's always a saying, you know, you teach what you need most to learn. And what I've done in my career is I've really become a bridge between what I always say, empirical data and metaphysical findings. I'm able to take, like, you're saying, follow the energy, follow the signs. But I go into corporations, and I don't use that language.

00:11:58
Maybe I do, depending on the audience, but I'm able to take metaphysical things and the research and combine them into workshops where people are able to find their own seat of power and influence. And it's. An athlete would equate it to being in the zone. When you're in the zone, and even my first book, you're mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally tuned into who you are. You are unstoppable.

00:12:25
So the workshops, whether they be on communication skills, on sales skills, on positive psychology, on emotional intelligence, I do workshops all across the board. Always have this central theme of you managing yourself, not you trying to manage others. And that's always how we. We're both very high energy people, and we get together, and that energy is so exciting. And it's, you know, finding that.

00:12:51
And each person. I always say, everyone wants to come out and play, but not everybody knows how to be so spontane and free and alive. They don't let themselves go there. And I want everyone to live a life like that, that. Where they're joyful and they're expanding their life force.

00:13:07
And, you know, through Covid, through politics, through violence, everything that's going on in the world, I always say to people, have your coping skills expanded or shrunk? Do you feel, wow, I got through that I could do anything? Or are you still. Are you just kind of, you know, putting up the barriers and the fences and the walls and the things that. Because you're afraid.

00:13:27
So there's two ways you can go. You can take these times in history and say, oh, my gosh, this is a playground for us to expand and to see that we have so much power. I always say everyone has more power than they think. This is a very long answer to the type of workshops I do. I love this.

00:13:43
Yeah, but so I go into corporations and I just want to end on this. What's so beautiful about the corporations I work with is that we really form partnerships where I meet with certain CEOs and leaders once a month and we discuss the team. What's working on the team, what's not working on the team, how can I supplement? How can I help? So one of my clients right now has this.

00:14:06
They're a scientific company and they have this really big project and they need everybody to be on the team. So I'm coming in to work on their communication skills a little more. I have another client who, again, they have a site leadership team and a global leadership team that reside in the same facility and who's outranking who. How do they all get along when they're all leaders? So again, the clients come to me with the issue and then we create the content from there.

00:14:36
And since I've been doing this so long, I've got like a warehouse of content. You do. And I mean, one of the things that you said, and I actually just had a podcast for word blindness is how important communication is and incorporations. So important. But also in your daily life with your spouse, with your kids, with people that you interact with.

00:14:59
Because we're all going in so many different directions, right? The world has gotten busier and busier, and if we can't stop and communicate, but also we know we need to know how we're communicating with the person, how the person that we're communicating, how are they receiving what we're saying? So you could just. I could be like, oh, yeah, I communicated all I needed, but everyone out there received it different and didn't understand what I was saying. So I actually didn't do my job, right?

00:15:24
I didn't do my job. I think I did. I. Oh, I just threw it off. But because I'm so self aware because of the work that I've done, you know, on myself and with clients and just growing wherever I've been and with the podcast is it's so important to know, okay, that person, are they understanding how I'm saying?

00:15:43
And yes, it takes a little time. But in, like, partnerships, it's really important. In spouse relationships, it's really important because I could say something and be like, okay, they've got it, they're on it. They can interpret it different. They go do it the way they Heard, and they still think that they're doing what I asked.

00:15:59
And then I'm like, wait, that didn't get done. They're like, oh, I didn't understand that. And it's really important to be able to do that. And onward. Blind.

00:16:05
As we were just talking about, sometimes, like, when people are texting back and forth, like, you also have to make sure that what you're saying in the text is how the person's reading it. So I just had a situation with my trainer. I was like, okay, can you work the work out these days? Dah, dah, dah. And her answer, I was like, oh, wait, so you're going away the whole week?

00:16:25
And she's like, no. And then she explained again, and I read it back and I was like, oh, now I am dyslexic. So that does happen. But I have to be aware of that before I jump and respond. It's such an important.

00:16:39
And it's really hard, and I don't do it very well, and I don't do it off. Like, I have to remind myself, you know what? Double check and read that. If you're like, oh, let me just jump at that. And it's again.

00:16:48
So you're teaching this. Incorporate. And sometimes it seems so, like, okay, why. Why is that, like, hard? But it really is.

00:16:56
So can you explain a little bit? Like, when you go into a corporation first and you get someone that's like, yeah, that's not. That's not hard. I'm doing that, like, kind of how you work through it to show them without being like, no, you're wrong. Because, you know that doesn't work either, right?

00:17:09
You need to, like, show them, hey, there's a different way to do things sometimes. Can you take us through that a little bit? You did already. You mentioned so many. You mentioned so many good things about slowing down and knowing your limits.

00:17:20
So you're saying you're dyslexic, and so that's. Maybe I have to read slower. Maybe I have to read twice. I'm. And we're both very fast people, so sometimes when you're moving too fast, I.

00:17:31
You know, when I'm writing, I know I miss these little periods and commas. They're such a pain in the butt. Right? Who needs those? I just.

00:17:37
I know what I want to say, but I know that's my weakness. So I need someone to proofread my work. You might need to listen, you know, listen to your. Or read the message twice. The biggest quote I love is now I Just.

00:17:51
I just lost it. Oh. Communication lies in the response it gets. So you really said this already, Juliet. If you're not getting the response you want, it's up to you to communicate differently.

00:18:03
And the word communication even comes from the word communicare, which is Latin for voice, for connection. So it's a heart to heart. So if you think about the conversations you're having, are you having heart to hearts or are you having two monologues? They're very. They're two very different things.

00:18:21
You know, when you're having a heart to heart, you're feeling, you're giving, you're receiving. So coming into a corporation. And I love our conversations, too, because all of us are just trying to do our best. We just really. You want the world to be a better place.

00:18:34
You want to help people. That's why you have all these podcasts and all this great success, because your mission is so strong within you. But every single person has this drive to want to do a good job. So for me, I go in and I'm like, I know you want to do a good job, and I'm going to. I present it like a buffet.

00:18:53
I'm not here to teach you how to do anything. I am going to put out this beautiful buffet, and you pick. You don't want to eat the broccoli and the carrots, go right for the cookies. Right. There's so many good ideas in the world, and I want people to take what resonates with them.

00:19:07
And that's what makes my classes so valuable, because I'm not there to prove anything or to make you do anything. I'm there to present these beautiful ideas, and you pick the ones that work for you. I always say you try it on for 30 days, and then you be the judge. If it doesn't work for you, it doesn't work for you. So the biggest thing I think, is getting people's buy in that people are smart, people know what they want, they know when they messed up, but sometimes they're not given the playground to try again to, you know, create what they want.

00:19:40
So that's what I like to do. You know, call it a play shop if you want, where we're going to throw out these ideas, and then I want you to play with them. I want you to try them on. And I even suggest try communication skills when it's not. There's no high stakes when you're buying your coffee, when, you know, talk to the person online in the supermarket, like these places, we're bumping into people all the time.

00:20:01
You and I met in the post office for the first time. We did start talking to people and practicing your eye contact practice with waiters and waitresses. And it's interesting when you start to do this and then pay attention to how you're being received. I just got off a phone call earlier this morning with a new coaching client. He'd been in the, he's been in business years, right?

00:20:24
He's probably my age, he's been in the business a long time and he's got this recent feedback that he's micromanaging. And you know, he admitted to me I'm a perfectionist and I can't wanna, I don't wanna see people fail. And I, you know, but again, you have to give people that leeway to make own mistakes with guidance and then see their gifts. That's the other thing. I'll end with this.

00:20:47
I'm really good at seeing through to people's hearts and seeing their gifts and then that helps them open up in my workshops. I love that. And it really just painted a picture because again, we all don't have all the answers and sometimes hearing it from different avenues and thinking about it, as you said, in different ways and that's where we have to be okay with who we are. That's where like the self esteem comes in and the willingness to be able to say, okay, maybe I'm not doing it right, maybe I can do it better. And that and the willingness to be able to grow, I think is so important.

00:21:21
And I think there's a lot of people out there that don't like to say, oh, I can do it better. There's a lot of people that have these egos and the egos are really, because they're self conscious and so if they can do that, work on that cells, they're just going to get to that next level. So that takes me then to the workshop. And I know again you guys can hear Michelle's story, which is really, I mean, she started in Verizon. There's a whole really interesting thing.

00:21:45
Went through a divorce, you know, in your early. Was that your 30s? Yeah, late 30s. 40s. Eh, yeah.

00:21:51
And then, you know, met the love of her life and moved out here and we did have a funny meeting because I used to wave. Couldn't see. And I waved to the new neighbors on the, on the porch and was always like, oh, I need to go say hi. But I always had the dogs and didn't know if they liked dogs. So it was One of these funny things.

00:22:08
And then we ended up meeting in the post office because we were really meant to do it. And we started, like, talking, and it was like, oh, my gosh. Oh, wait, you're the person I'm meeting on the porch, so you can go back and listen, because it is a fun story and the reason why I wanted again to have you on here, because I want people to see the evolution. One of my other guests that I have had on before, she said I was almost. She's like, you're almost like a historian.

00:22:31
She's like, I actually love this. She's like, I listened back to the first episode, and to think, where I am now is so fricking cool for me. I love that. I know. And so I got.

00:22:40
I was excited about that. I was like, you know what? I didn't put it in those words, but that's kind of how, in my head, I was. There's certain. There's some guests that I really want to have be able to share where they are now, because they have been doing the work that they were doing when we spoke.

00:22:56
Right? So it's like, you see this kind of unfold. And that's what I'm so obsessed with, because that's exactly what I've done in my career. And it's really neat to be able to see it as, like, you know, the podcast and be like, that's so interesting that everything I talked about is literally unfolding itself because of these things that I didn't even realize I was doing. Right?

00:23:15
Your openness and your openness to try new things. And you always inspire me, because I don't know how many podcasts I think you had five at last count, or how many you're up to or if you're still doing them all. But it's, you know, not. It's not always your first iteration. It's like, you know, let me try this, let me try that.

00:23:31
Don't give up. That fire in you is fierce, and that's what you want to teach other people. The fire doesn't go out just because the way you. The road you took didn't take you where you wanted to go. And that's what I love about you, because you just.

00:23:42
You never. I've never, ever seen you. I've seen you say, I'm overwhelmed. I got a lot going on. But you never quit.

00:23:48
Yeah. Yeah, right? And it's. And because someone like, you know, because it's funny in the world, some people will be like, wait, you're doing that. And how are you doing all that?

00:23:56
Like, it almost seems like I'm running from something because I'm doing too many things. And I'm like, no, that's. Actually, I could see where that can see. Like, it looks like I work Hawk. That's not the way it is at all.

00:24:05
It's. These opportunities have presented themselves I say no to. I can't tell you how many things, because that's what sometimes will. People will be like, wait, are you. Oh, wait, you're going to the hall of fame next week, but you now have this other job?

00:24:16
And what. And I'm like, yes, because it all is fitting in, and when it doesn't, I know that means I need to say, okay, what did I learn in that situation? Is that still serving me? Or did I learn what I was supposed to do? And that brought me to this other opportunity.

00:24:33
Right. And so that's so wise. Juliet. Some people. I always say, some people get into a company that they don't like, and then they make a career out of it.

00:24:41
I'm like, if you made a career mistake, there's no chains on your feet. You need to leave. And what you. What you thrive off of and what you love is not what someone else loves. So it's like letting everybody stay in their lane.

00:24:54
And if this is working for me, and as long as it's working, I'm going to keep going. And your openness to try the new things and to, you know, keep seeing. What will work, but you're very similar, and that's one of the reasons why we also get along so well. Because I remember probably like six, seven months ago, we were on our, you know, one of our walks, and you were telling me about this workshop, and that's why I wanted to talk about this. And the reason why I bringing this up from before is because I want people to go back and listen to your whole story, but then seeing when they listen to that part of the story, they can actually see where the second book came in in this workshop.

00:25:30
And so that's what's really fun. So take us through the workshop, and then I want to, like, go into the details that I found fascinating, you know, when we would be talking on our walks. But take us through a little bit and also where people can find it, because it's. It's awesome. Yeah.

00:25:44
So I think what you're talking about is the new videos, right? Workshop. Which is fine. It's a workshop. So again, during COVID it gave us an opportunity to take the learning online Right.

00:25:58
Everything's Zoom now or whatever it is. So my book Happiness is a Habit was created into an online learning platform, which I'm so proud of. It's been professionally done. I went to a real studio and got my hair and makeup done and you know, I had real people editing it and it's absolutely, absolutely, absolutely beautiful. It's 18 short videos with an 80 page workbook.

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And I do use it with my coaching clients. So when I work with my coaching clients, they get the videos. I always call the videos the vitamins. Right. So you watch these little videos like taking vitamin supplements and then you get me live, you know, every other week on a coaching call.

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But they're standalone. Anybody can go to energizeyourresults.com under this is my brand new website. So it's merchandise under the merchandise tab. And you'll find the Happiness is a Habit video learning series. But again, it was a project.

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It was taking a 300 page book and then saying, okay, what do I want to say from the book? And it's been over 10 years, so I've grown so much. So my new book, which is already written. So this video series is the bridge between the old book and the new book and really comes to managing your energy. And the more spontaneous and free and fun you can be, the more you can be yourself.

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And this sounds so cliche, the more success finds you. But it's that sweet spot of saying, am I being true to me and how can I navigate again the world that. The world. This is what you have to navigate, your mind. So it's all about the perspective, about how you're viewing, how you're viewing your son going off to college, how I viewed my dad's passing away, how we're viewing this new political climate we're coming against.

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Again, I don't have control over so much in this world. But when that was the biggest thing during COVID I stopped giving my energy to things I didn't control. It's such a relief. It is really. And if I could just focus on what I control.

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And when I get into what I control, I become more powerful. You become more influential and you become someone people want to be with, want to work with, want to follow, be on their team. So that's the beauty of it. Coming into your own power and then you go out and change the world. Don't go out and try to change the world when you're angry and exhausted and frustrated.

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Right. Get into your seat of power, which is what this next book is coming. And actually, I'll even bridge that. Once I started working on myself mentally, physically, spiritually, and emotionally on a regular basis, I got into an even better place of energy. And I used to call.

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I started calling the magic carpet days, when everything just clicks. You had the momentum going so well, and then realizing that that power's in you. That's what got so exciting. I mean, I got the best Uber driver. I got good seats on airplanes.

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I got upgraded. I went to the hotel and they gave me the water view. And I'm not making this up. But then on days when I get up and I stub my toe and I start complaining, my day doesn't go well. So I want people to put together that they're the ones creating this based on what they're focused on.

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And that's what the how the two books bridge. It's in the video workshop, which I went off on a tangent. No, no, but the video workshop is the 18 lessons. And even sometimes when I get off course and then I read my own stuff, I laugh. I'm like, okay, Michelle, take your own.

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Right? Well, sometimes. Goddamn advice. But sometimes that's hard. I mean, sometimes that's the hardest to do.

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I mean, because it's funny. I always. I call that your. The magic carpet days. Like, I call that the.

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Your flow, right? Like when you're in flow. But the thing that's really interesting is if you hear people that teach what you teach, you know, in all different levels, they're saying very similar things, but. And it's how someone interprets it. So, like, sometimes you.

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It's not meant. You know, this person's not connecting with you because it's not meant, but you need to listen to their message and take something out of it. Because I always say to people is, you're not a tree. Like, if you're not happy, get up and go. Yes, exactly.

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Like, you don't have to stay there. Right? And so we all have these terms, but they all mean the same thing. And it all means that you have to kind of. You can't live outside your body.

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You really have to be in tune to it, and it's not easy. You know, I talk about this a lot on word blindness. One of the podcast is, you know, about trauma and all these things that there's people out there that are in so much pain, they don't know how to get in front or in back or an outside of their own way. Right. They don't know what to do.

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So when you. If you're Going to talk. And we're not therapists, so I'm just going to also put that out there. So we are not therapists. But if you have someone or in your own, like when you're in a moment, right.

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Of like, oh, and maybe it's a couple days of. Or you have a client or your husband or a friend is in that, like, just frustrating mode, do you have something that you do the first thing automatically to kind of try to switch that mindset? Yeah. This is such a great question. And it's in the video series, it's not in the book.

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So this is really exciting. I call it like the emotional ladder. So imagine all your emotions as being energy. And at the bottom of the emotional ladder is depression, right? Anxiety, fear.

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And think of a person that's in that place, they have no energy. I have no energy. I can't get out of bed. Then at the top of the emotional ladder is joy, exuberance, knowledge, love. That's a lot of beautiful energy.

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And what happens is people want to jump from the bottom to the top. That's why we drink and drug and shop and whatever we're addicted to, we try to soothe ourselves. And what I teach is, I don't want you to jump from the bottom rung to the top. I want you to take a little bit of a step. So I use the example, I think, in the video series.

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I can't remember which example I used, but say I go on social media and I just see my neighbor bought a boat or just went on some great vacation and I'm like, you know, all of a sudden I find my energy goes boom, right? You get that, like you said, what happens? You get that gut, like, punch that you just, you, everything was fine and now you feel horrible. Well, what just happened? So it's that pause.

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What happened? I went on social media for 2.3 minutes. How long does it take you to start dropping? And I saw someone has something I don't have. So then I have to identify the emotion is, am I depressed?

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No. Am I angry? No. Am I? Or am I?

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Maybe I'm jealous, right? So I identify the emotion as jealousy and maybe a little angry and not angry at my neighbor so much, but angry at myself. Maybe they went on this vacation. I haven't had one. So, okay, so I'm angry at myself.

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So I've taken a step up the ladder. I haven't jumped to feeling great yet. But now, like, anger has a little more emotion than depression, right? So now I'm out of bed. I'm dressed, I'm angry.

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I don't want to stay there. I'm, you know, jealousy. And then I go to. Maybe I'm just frustrated. Maybe I'm just overwhelmed again, that has a little better of energy.

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Feeling overwhelmed doesn't feel as horrible as angry or jealousy. And then I'm just disappointed again. Disappointed has a little less, a little more energy. Feeling good, but not any. The negative energy.

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Why am I disappointed? Because I haven't, you know, booked a vacation. Okay, so can I go from disappointment to looking on the line and looking on the Internet and finding a vacation? Okay, so now. Okay, now I'm like, satisfied looking at some new vacations.

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Oh. I see something I like and I look. It's in my budget and I plan for it. So now I move myself up the ladder to hope. Once I get to hope, my body, the relief valve goes off so I don't have to be bouncing off the wall.

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Epic. Everything's great. But if I can get myself to contentment and hope, then I could start to build on those positive emotions. So teaching people how to walk up the emotional ladder one rung at a time versus always chasing the next to me has been one of the most brilliant things I've learned and I teach in my workshops. I love that.

00:33:58
Okay, so tell people where they can find you. And you know. Yeah, and I know we did in the beginning, but it always is nice to hear it a number of times. Yeah. I just created a new landing page so it's easier for people to find me.

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It's energizeyourresults.com and when you get there, there'll be four doors. Are you a personal coaching client? Corporate. Are you looking for workshops or are you looking for merchandise and training videos and books? It makes it much easier to navigate.

00:34:21
I love that. And then they can also find you on LinkedIn, Instagram. But where do you on social media bringing that up? Is there a place that you hang out a little bit more? Do you give updates on one of the platforms more or it's really kind of just the website is the best place to go.

00:34:36
Really good questions. I don't play on LinkedIn as much as I should because I don't have as much fun. I'm all about fun. So Instagram is at keyperformance and Facebook is Michelle Phillips and Associates. If you go to Instagram, you'll find everything to connect with the other sites.

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Yeah. So that's good. Yep. And it's key performance. Perfect.

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And is there anything you want to. End with just what we said before. You know, keep positive energy. Put energy and enthusiasm to everything you do, and you always have more power than you think. I love that.

00:35:08
Well, thank you. I mean, it's always awesome. I'm glad that we got to catch up here. I know. And we.

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Can we keep going? I missed you. I know. I missed you, too. I totally do.

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But we will get on the schedule. Once I get back from taking Montgomery, we will get on back on our walking schedule. But thank you again for joining your next stop. You guys know what to do, like rate, review, and share Again. You don't know who needs to hear this.

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You don't know who right now is at the bottom of that ladder and they need a little pickup or they are at a company that they're like, we need something. We need help. You don't know who needs to hear this, so don't forget to share. And. And we'll see you for another episode of your next stop.

00:35:44
Thank you, Juliet.