S2E20: Understanding the Struggles Behind Winning Gold

Want to uncover the secret to increasing empathy and support for dyslexic athletes and children leaving for college? Join us in discovering the solution that will make a positive impact in their lives. Let's dive into the journey of understanding and empowerment.

In this episode, you will learn about:

• Mastering Dyslexia in Athletes: Unveiling the strategies to empower dyslexic youth in sports and unleash their full potential.
• Conquering Anxiety and ADHD in Sports: Discovering effective ways to manage anxiety and ADHD in young athletes to help them thrive in sports.
• Understanding Special Needs in Sports: Embracing the importance of empathy and support for dyslexic athletes to create an inclusive and supportive sports environment.
• Emotional Impact of Children Leaving for College: Navigating the emotional journey of supporting dyslexic children as they embark on their college adventure, ensuring a smooth transition.

Mastering Dyslexia in Athletes
In the episode, the importance of mastering dyslexia in athletes is highlighted as individuals share their personal struggles and triumphs in overcoming this learning difference. The conversation emphasizes the unique challenges faced by dyslexic athletes and the resilience needed to navigate the sports world successfully. Listeners are encouraged to understand and support dyslexic athletes in their journey to excel in sports.

Transcript:

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Welcome back to word blindness. Dyslexia exposed. I'm Juliet Hahn, and I'm here with my co host, Brent Sopel. How are you? The roles are reversed.

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Hey.

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Oh, fuck. I'll just say that. Hope there's no kids in the car listening. I apologize. Earmuffs.

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Fuck. Shit. Yeah. Yeah, right? Balls.

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Is that old school? Why'd you see ear muffs? Earmuffs. Now you can say whatever you want. Fuck.

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Shit. Balls. Yeah. I'm a child. Okay, well, we have a lot of stuff to talk about.

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I don't even know. I know we're pausing here because. Are we going right into the ESP? Oh. Oh, I wanted to show you.

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We're going in. You first. Oh, look at you. Yeah, you are, kid. Look at that.

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Look at that. How ugly is that? Look at those. Cindy. I was like, what are you, like, peas and olives?

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And I was like, I know. I was like. I was going with green because it was my outfit, and then it actually ended up. My outfit was more blue, so I was like, oh, I really didn't look at it before, so. Oh, we're going into me first.

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Okay. This is good. This is like live therapy, guys, this is. Brent has talked me off the ledge. But as I told Elizabeth this morning, your ears are painted on, so.

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Did you say my ears are painted on? Yeah. That means you're not listening. I am listening. There's other people that are involved in the whole thing that I don't have control of.

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You put your big girl panties on now. It's mama coming. Yes. You know, again, it's kind of like everything else. I was obviously, you know, being on this side of it, coming from it at a different angle, which seems very, you know, very weird.

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Right. Yeah. And it doesn't seem to make sense. Right, totally. And I know the listeners right now are like, what are you talking about?

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And we can't. I can't get into detail. So, like, we're. We could just talk about mindset and. And, you know, again, you know, youth sports have now become a business.

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Yeah. On, you know, every single. Every single sport. And we were talking about OC coaches out there. Ill, they're not, a lot of them don't develop, you know, in, like, for hockey.

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They got tires and ropes and whistle, you know, all these jump rope. It's a. All. It's all facade, you know, make it look good. Mm hmm.

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And as I said to you, when I played hockey, yo, I left home at 16. I've got other guys I play with home 13 14ft. Remember, there is no Internet, there is no dial up, you know. Yeah. Didn't exist.

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So there's no kid that needs to leave home early, finish high school again. In the three out of the four major sports, baseball, football and basketball. Hockey. Yo. Sometimes not a team.

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There's not a rank. Right. Right. So you have to have. And that's.

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I think that's probably the biggest thing between the four major sports is those three always can go to. Always go to college because that's how you go, you know, if you end goals, NBA, wherever, you have to go to college and get drafted. But you don't have to leave home. Right. Especially now.

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And so we'll. Right. Obviously we're not talking about the kid that's leaving. So whenever this. Well, this is gonna go because I.

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And we can change this and we can, whatever. But this is gonna be like a bonus episode, I believe. So I think this is gonna be going out literally next week. So right now we are. Oh, it's 1111.

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Right now we are recording Monday, August 5. Just so you guys know, everyone knows that we record on Mondays. Sometimes episodes go out sooner. Like if it's like, oh, this is time sensitive. It goes out.

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But this one is gonna be twofold. One, we wanna talk about Noah Lyles, who is the runner that came out and was talking about his dyslexia. And we're gonna get into why. We're gonna talk about that. But I am dropping my kid off at university this week.

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At the end of the week, I think everyone that probably listens to this realizes I'm a very emotional human, like a back case. What is the difference between university and college? Because in Canada we only have university. So I don't even. I don't know.

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Do you know? So you're gonna lie. Yes. And actually Montgomery is going to Newberry College, which is a college. I just call everything university.

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And I think it's because I worked for a british company and they always called it uni. And so I just. I. Which. It's very confusing.

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Yes. So we're dropping him off at school. We're dropping him off at college. What is the difference? So it.

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There is a. It's a different class and a different, like the different academics. So like a university. And I could be incorrect with this. A university actually has different schools.

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So they have like the school of education, the school of science, a college. It's all within one. And I know I'm not explaining that completely incorrect, so I'm going to look that up but where I. This is crazy. When I went to college, I was accepted into a school called Glassboro State.

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At that time, Henry Rowan donated $100 million to have the first New Jersey engineering school. So then a year later, they changed it to Rowan College, even though he didn't want it to be changed. They're like, we're going to. And then I graduated from Rowan university, so. And so it was, like, really funny.

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People were like, did you go to three different schools? I was like, nope. The same school just changed its name the entire time. So what it was is it was originally, like, my mom went there, and it was a college of education. I know.

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It was actually the one. I'm sorry. I had a great experience, but it was the one place I was like, I'm not going. But everyone knows my story, that it was like, actually, you are. This is the only place that you can get your grades in and play.

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So I. I. So from what I understand, there's, like, specific. Like, so they have. Even though it's part of the whole university, there's different.

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Like, so there's a whole science where you can just go and do that. You don't have to go. And I know I'm not explaining it correctly. I'm gonna look up the exact definition, but that is. It just doesn't make sense to me.

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You know? Again, that's why I ask. You know, obviously, in Canada, it's all universities. You know, even if there's a. You know.

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Did you say college of Science? Here's it. Okay? So colleges focus on undergraduate program only. Okay?

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So I didn't explain it completely. Right. While universities provide a wide range of undergraduate graduate PhD programs. That's the difference. So can you please speak English?

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Because I still have no fucking clue what you just said. So, yeah, so a college basically, is just. You get your four year degree, and you're out. If you're a university, you offer, like, you can get a master's, and then you can get a. Like.

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Like, you could stay at the same place. So, you know, like, what you hear, people will say, oh, I went to Rowan college for my undergraduate, and then I went to MIT for my. I've always wondered that. I never. Yeah.

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I've always wondered why people transfer. Okay. Yeah, so that. So that's. So that's what it is.

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So with the university, you can stay and do one now. I think a lot of people also do, though, go to a different. Like, they get. Yeah, whatever we don't need. That's not what we're talking about today.

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So that's one of the things. But we, and so we're really going to talk about that because. And I never read comment sections, and I don't know why I did, but I did. And I was like, oh, I was horrified. It was so fucking rude.

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It was so obnoxious. But we've had, you know, obviously, I am headed off to drop Montgomery off at school. I am an emotional person. I have, like, friends that are like, God, he's not dying. And I was like, I know he's not dying, but this is like, this is where it is.

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This is an end of an error for my house. And, like, if people are like, well, no, because of this and this, there's no, no, it 100% is, my kids will never be teenagers living under the same roof in high school again. And it's a wonderful. Where we're going. It's wonderful.

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I'm so happy, so proud of him. He worked his ass off. This is his dream. It is amazing. But I'm like, I am an emotional person.

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I am someone that's going to feel. I did say to him, you know, I'm going to be okay. He's like, mom, I know you're going to be okay. I know you're just. I know you love me and you're going to miss me, but I am going to be back.

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And I'm like, yep. But it's, it's. The whole thought of this is the next to that, too. Obviously, he's your oldest, right? Your first.

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You know, dad's already measuring up the bedroom for the hot tub and. But there's, there's more to this one right now. If the roles reversed, say Truman was leaving first, you know, and I won't say it like, you, you wouldn't miss, you know, you wouldn't be this up there, you admit, wouldn't miss them. Um, differently. It's.

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It's an addition, different emotional bond, emotional roller coaster that went with Montgomery and the schools and ips and everything that we talk about every single day, you know? So. Yes. And all the. Right.

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All the schooling stuff, right. There's more to this than. Yeah, absolutely. You're correct. And, you know, you're on.

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This is a new chapter for you, new chapter for your family, new chapter for your son. And also, you're panicking about him going to school, um, because he's going to go to, you know, now he's going to college. You know, he's dyslexic one. So. And it's hard really emotions going with you and you're probably.

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You're not going to have as many emotions, you know, with your other two. Let's say again, it's not that you, I know, love them any differently there, you know, the battle that goes on. Look at that ip I read last night, you know, that angered me. It's 09:00 at night. You know, the listeners.

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I was speaking to a mom in Cincinnati. She sent me her neuro psych of her son. And I, I always do, you know, anybody who gets her kid neuropsych done. If you want some recommendations coming from, from us, I always kind of say is taking it out of doctor terms, right. It's all high level.

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Nobody understands what it's so breaking it down into. You know, I hear it's like 09:00 nine and a motherfucking the neuropsych and it's a different emotional feeling. Roller coaster, tea party, call, whatever you want. It's a different emotion that brings up a lot of salt and wounds traumas. So there's, there's more to it.

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Obviously, you're emotional. You're, you like change, but you're not gonna have your fingertip at your fingertips and have that control again. And not meaning you're controlling. Yes. It's what you're.

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As a mom, that's what you do, right? Schedules. Hey, who's going here? Who's got this? Who's got, you know, that's what you've done for 18 years.

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Yes. And I. And I love that and a hundred percent, because again, yes, I'm gonna have a. I am an emotional human. I do like change, but these kind of changes, like these milestones in life always, I mourn them because it's like, like, oh, my God, I love that.

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I love being a mom so much now. And I have friends that are the same, you know, the same way I also have friends that are like, I'm excited to see them fly. I am so excited to see him fly. I'm so excited to see the next. Cause I know he is so prepared.

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And it is not that. It's none of that. So I love what you said there because it is. Some people might be like, oh, she must control everything. And I am not my kids.

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I am not a helicopter mom. It is a quick. Are those parents that you share? I'm going to cut you off. Do they have dyslexic kids that you just mentioned there?

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No, and that's the thing. And so, yeah, and so the thing is. And any, any parent we're not even just talking about dyslexia. If you have a child that has had struggles in life or has had needed, maybe a different type of thing, whatever it is, it is a different thing. It is.

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There's a morning of, not like, morning, like, good morning. A morning of, I know he can do it, but there's times where I definitely have protected him so he didn't have to. And I know it's, like, time where it's going to be like, see, now I can totally get emotional. Life is going to happen, and it's going to be like, oh, okay. There's going to be hard stuff because of his dyslexia in university.

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And it does, as you said, 100 billion% bring up. My first year in school, I tried to drop out 30 times. And I also am preparing myself, like, okay, that might happen. How are you going to hand it? My mom was the best, I have to say.

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And I hope she's listening to this. She was the best. And I know she. We talk about it now. She's like, it was so hard to tell you, no, no, no.

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You have to stay. She goes, it tore my heart out. Cause I'd be like, mom, I can't do this. Like I am. I cannot.

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I can't focus. I can't do this. I can't do this. That's when we really got a lot of my diagnosis like that, just like, all of that. Because it was like, okay, there's more to it.

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She's kind of made her way through. Montgomery has that diagnosis, right? We have the support, and Newberry has that school. And I just go. And I take a breath because I'm like, it is different.

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Like, I was literally thrown into the deep end, not being able to swim. Not that that was any. Like, I. Because I faked it till I made it, kind of. And then it was like, oh, wait, you actually do have some kind of bigger learning disabilities than we all ever kind of thought.

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And it was, like, changed, obviously. But, I mean, sitting in the classroom, and I don't mean to interrupt you in any. In a auditorium, all I could hear was people tapping their pens. I could hear the clock ticking. I'll never forget.

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I was looking around, and then, of course, I was like, oh, how many hawkeyes are here? Then I'm looking around, and then I started counting shirts, and then the class was over, and everyone's like, oh, wow, that was a lot of notes we needed to take. And I was like, oh, my God. I didn't take one note. Well, let's.

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Let's. You know, it's awesome that it happened because you got where you got your diagnosis, right? You got you here today. So if it didn't go, that brain just, like, if I didn't get my daughter tested. Yeah.

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We wouldn't be having those conversations. So it's great. It did. Mm hmm. And your mom's not dyslexic, so this is.

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It's gonna be a little bit different, you know, how to handle better because, you know, you can. You know, obviously, we all know our kids. Yeah, we know our kids better than kids know themselves. Right. But, you know, you've been through it, and you have it, so you have that extra piece of understanding that, you know.

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So you're living all your traumas right now. I know. It's so tiring. I'm so tired. I know.

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No, and that's the thing. People. And people really don't think about it. Um, again, whether it's dyslexia or not, when you kind of live through something and then you see that you're someone and a loved one is going to be kind of making their own life, but, you know, what kind of you went through, it's like, oh, my gosh. And that is just it.

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It is. I think there's so much. Because I am, you know, I preach. Things happen for a reason, right? I am pretty good at that every once in a while.

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Like, today, I did not. I did not go to yoga. I actually stayed in bed because I was like, I can't face the world right now. I was having such anxiety about so many things because I just. We have so much to do.

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And that's where this executive functioning. And when I, you know, I had a friend tell me, because we were talking about her child, and she was saying about executive functioning and her husband, she's like, I was so happy. My husband sat down and broke it all out. And now she's good. And I was like, I love that.

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I love that you had that understanding. And her daughter's not diagnosed, but she's like, I really believe that we all have kind of this ADHD. And I said to her, I go, my executive functioning is crazy. And she goes, you are. I've never met anyone that does more things and gets more things accomplished and done than you.

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What are you talking about, your executive functioning? I said, I know how to do it. But when all of a sudden it comes to a head, I get anxiety, like, it is no fun fucking business. And then I have to break it down and I know you understand that because you do the same thing. It's all of a sudden that overwhelm, and it's like, I know I can do a lot, and I can do a lot, but it's just that little bit of water that all of a sudden hits.

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It's like that one extra thing. Then I'm like, I have to. I mean, it can. It can take me down in a different way than it takes you down, but it is. It's exhausting.

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And I think there's a lot of people that actually can. Can really relate to that 100%. Yo, you know, everybody has, you know, executive functioning, you know, in their personality, right? Yeah. It's part of you, who you are.

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It's figuring out what works best for you again. You know, that's where I talk about falling, loving yourself, right? Accepting yourself, being good with yourself. Then you can learn how she lives. And I got shit done in the last two weeks, like, how you guys get anything done in your house.

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In our own fucked up way. We got notes and shit, like, just. But you do all over the place, right? In our own way. So there's no right or wrong.

00:17:25
So if that's. You know, when I talked to a buddy of mine today, you know, he's a fireman, you know, Kurt, project fire buddies. Came on a vacation for a week with his wife. Come back, he's got so much to do, right. And everybody calls, and, you know, that's the most important call.

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And I said to him, you're right. His most important call, because it's theirs. Just like we've talked about here, how many times. Your trauma is the most important trauma. The hardest, deepest, because it's yours.

00:17:57
And, you know, the same thing I said to him, you know, like, your wife, your daughter, there's wants and needs. It was, you know, same thing I said. As I said to your wife, I said, with her age, d, she used to put, like, 40 things, not less, to do. Today, I'm like, that's not realistic, so let's back that up. I said, you're allowed to put five.

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Yeah. Just breaking it down, right. And I said that the same thing to him. Yo, break it down. Who can do.

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Yes. Adhd, Brent, can we do more things? Absolutely. But that's knowing who you are, right? And if you don't, you're not ag.

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So what works for you? There's no right or wrong. Yeah. It's finding out what that is. And each part of life, it changes.

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And, you know, going to college and going to high school and move away. Like every portion of this journey makes you who you are. And I remember my daughter. It's not always dyslexia, you know. And as you were talking about, I have to let her, I had to let her fall, skin her knee and come on.

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Told you so. But no. Yeah. And be there to pick her up. And that's ours.

00:19:02
Yeah. It's life. No, totally. And so I'm going to go back to the beginning. So we, you know, obviously had a situation with one of my other kids in sports and it was like this opportunity that just didn't feel right.

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But it seemed like it was really cool. And then it was like, oh. And I, and you were kind of coaching me through it and I was getting, I was like I don't, this is the last thing I need to be dealing with right now. Like holy motherfucker. Like this is the last thing right now that this needed.

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But then I. What did I say to you this morning? I was like, it's there. So I'm not over focusing on the other child because usually as a defense mechanism and would you tell me to say shut up? I usually don't say that.

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I did. I said shut up. I'll talk to you at eleven. But you're right, listeners, it's creating a distraction to not focusing against same thing. I didn't create it.

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I know you think I did. You think I helped you. I did not create it. Yes. You know, you didn't.

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You're right. You didn't create it, but you didn't stop it. Right. Well, I was on an airplane, but. Right.

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You know, continue. Right. So um, I hear you. You put not gas in the file. Diesel.

00:20:09
So it burned longer. Right. So yes, that's, yes. You know, gas or diesel, obviously, you know, diesel burns longer. So you could have stopped it.

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You know, and it's that emotional where is something's there, you know, remember, it's, we got to learn how to take a step back and analyze that situation and what has come to you. Um, can, you know, am I trying to control things I can't control. Is there other people there? It's, it's, you know, taking that step back. You know, you tech, you, you took that step forward.

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No, to forget about what you're doing, you know, at the end of the week. And that's what you're gonna, I can't even, I can't even look at my, I can't even look at my calendar. Oh my God. I can't even look at my calendar. Every time I look at my calendar, I, like, literally start going into, like.

00:21:04
And I. And this is what really is. Like, I kind of want to talk to God about this. Like, I am hormonal, too, which I'm like, you gotta be. If it was, like, two weeks earlier, I wouldn't be in the middle of this shit.

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So, I mean, I know it always happens this way, and it's fine, but, like, I am extra, extra emotional. And don't shake your head. Like, I would be emotional. Yes, but I. Yes, but.

00:21:29
And I'll again, agree to disagree. You're trying to use that as a not shade of not really addressing the whole situation here and full emotional aspect that's going with this. So fine. All right, listen, you.

00:21:56
This week is gonna be. It's hard. It is hard. And thank you, and I appreciate it. And you know what?

00:22:00
The thing is, I was actually just talking to Hahn about this yesterday, because yesterday I woke up, I was traveling. That's so great. And he was sitting downstairs and he was reading the newspaper. And those still exist. He was reading on his iPad, but, yes, okay.

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Yes. And that's what he did. He like, we'll wake up and one of us will get up with the dogs first. But usually lately he's been letting me kind of sleep in, and then we will. I usually will go to yoga on the weekends.

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I don't typically go to yoga, but because I was traveling, I was going to do yoga yesterday. I opted not to. And he was like, hmm. I could see his face. I was like, I'm just going to walk the dogs.

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He's like, okay. But then I like, because I was gone for a couple days, he was traveling in. He was traveling in LA, and then I was in Ohio. And obviously we have a shit ton of stuff that we have to take care of. We got a bunch of stuff taken care of before he left.

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And he says, he basically just kind of gave me a smirk and was like, I think you need to go take a walk. Like, I basically was. I think he said, what did he say to me? He said something like, you're spinning. I think, can you just go?

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And it wasn't mean, but like. And I said to him, huh? I said, that was kind of rude. If you said to me, I see that you seem like you're spinning. Is there anything I can do?

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Instead of, like, I think you're spinning, go take a walk, or you're. No, no, no. This isn't how he delivered it. Didn't matter how he delivered it. And what he said, this is what he said.

00:23:32
He said, you're too much. And I hate that I've talked about this. He said, you're being. You're a little much right now. And I went, excuse me?

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He goes, well, I can tell you're spinning. And I said, oh, so that's really helpful. That's really helpful, me telling me I'm too much when I'm spinning. I was like, dick. And he goes, okay.

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And I go, wouldn't it be nice to say, oh, honey, you seem like you're spinning. Even if there's anything I can do that you bite his head off. So let's just call spin his favorite. But to say you're too much is like, I hate that. I hate that I've been called too much a lot of times in my life.

00:24:03
Just said from I'm too loud or whatever. Anyway, so we did laugh. But one of the things that is really beautiful about relationships are, and Hahn and I did talk about this last night. He is very good at when I am spinning to settle me. And I have been in relationships in the past that has not been where it's just like, it doesn't work.

00:24:25
And it is. It is a really. And not everyone gets to find it. Like, he can just be laid back. He could say two things.

00:24:33
He could just say like a sentence, and then he goes, he doesn't get into the whole conversations and let me do this, and blah, blah, blah. And at times he will. But he's like, I just think that you need to take a walk. And I did. I took a walk.

00:24:45
And then, you know, this morning when I said I didn't do yoga, he said, oh, I don't think that was a good idea. I think you should have done yoga. And I said, well, I didn't. I just. And he was already at work.

00:24:55
I mean, he left early this morning. So it going through these situations with a partner that does understand, even though we get in arguments this six months, like, I need help with this. I know you can't do it right now because you're at work, but, like, this is not. I should not be filling out 50 pages of papers. Like, I know you don't also have the time, so we need to figure this out.

00:25:20
You know, all of those things. It's been awesome to be able to then go back and both of us say thank you or, that worked nice, or that was a shit show or whatever. You both have come a long ways in the last year. You've grown individually, you know, and obviously, as a couple and parents, you've learned a lot about yourselves. You've all done.

00:25:48
You've both done a lot of work. So it's all that work has gotten you to be able to be there, to support each other with that understanding. But there's that key word again, understanding. If you don't understand yourself, how's your partner supposed to understand? Totally and understandable.

00:26:07
Right? They're understandable. Understand. Obviously, we talk about, you know, men and women, how different of creatures we already are. So if you don't understand yourself, how the fuck are we supposed to.

00:26:22
Oh, you think it. You're thinking this. Excuse me. Yeah, my girls, I'm like, see this little cell phone here, guys, right here, we're too fucking stupid to go outside. So you guys, away the fuck over there, down the street, around the corner, up over here.

00:26:38
We're right here. So if you think we're down there. No, we're right here. We're dumb. That's why you guys live longer, else we're right here.

00:26:44
Right? Women do. We do. We do think. Think.

00:26:48
Yes, it is very interesting. Well, what did I say? I said, did I tell you this? I said to Penelope, I texted her before I was leaving, and I was on the airplane, and I was like, I love you. And she goes, what?

00:27:01
Are you dying? And I was like, no. I just said, I love you. And she goes, well, that's very random. And I go, I looked.

00:27:07
I go, I've texted you. She goes, yeah, but you're getting on a plane. She goes, it was just weird. And then she said to me, if I just texted you in the middle of the day from school, you would like. Wouldn't you think there was a school shooter?

00:27:19
And I went, no, what do you talk. Why would I think there's a school shooter? I would be like, oh, that's so nice. My daughter is thinking about me now. I have to say, my daughter is sarcastic to the bone.

00:27:28
So this is like a. And a school shooter is not funny at all. But the day and age these kids live in, well, it's so funny, too. But I was dying laughing because I was like. I just said I love you when I was married.

00:27:40
The one time. Yeah, yeah. We're playing a game. Road game. She go, broke a leg.

00:27:45
The fuck do you think I did? Broke my leg. Right. One time. That sucks.

00:27:53
Fuck you. Why'd you put that out in the universe, right? Okay. So do we want to talk about Noah Lyles and that? We do.

00:28:04
We do. And you know what? And a great thing. Simone Biles just fell. Fell off the beam.

00:28:08
Yes. Good. I can't stand that human. She disgusts me. Okay, well, so why.

00:28:14
Because most people love her. So I want, you know, again, first off, who designs a diamond necklace with a goat? Like, you're arrogant. You know, that's just.

00:28:35
But again, she lied about the mental health stuff, you know? So if you take a look at. She did a great job and went through a lot with the coach from us gym, you know, exposed him still in prison. Amazing things. Took time.

00:29:00
Time off and had to get back in the gym to train to make that Olympic team. And so that's months and months and months and years to prepare for Tokyo Olympics. It's called. Something called exposure therapy. When you're doing it over and over and over again, that doesn't become a trigger because, you know, you've done.

00:29:24
You've done that. Now it's a. If you just walk in the gym for the first, you know, for the first time to, you know, hop on whatever they think, you know, uneven bars or whatever, okay, and then you. You leave. You're not.

00:29:38
That's a trigger, right? You haven't gone through. They haven't been okay with it. See, you don't get to that point and make the team go through Olympics. Go all the way to the end, and then you stumble and then you pull yourself out and say, it's mental health.

00:29:54
That's not how that works. Yeah. Again, it's a different outlook on a different way of looking at it. It's. That's not.

00:30:03
That's not how it works, you know. Um, so then talking about how you'll go and, you know, sign these big contracts the next day of, you know, of. Of this contract or this mental health or. That's not. That's not how.

00:30:18
That's not how it works. Right? And now she's, you know, got running around doing all that, you know, again, it's. Elizabeth told me she's gonna. She already knew she was gonna win before even started because it's, you know, that's how it works there.

00:30:31
It's. There's a. You know, there's a very gray area unless she does something drastic. So again, now she's running around and, you know, you gotta a chain with a goat on with 500 something diamonds. You know, you.

00:30:43
You talk about mental health and will lead into, you know, Noah, that's arrogant, that's selfish, that, you know, that's cocky, that's disgusting. You know, and then when you sign contracts with mental health, you know, shortly after.

00:31:05
What's, you know, what's this about company? You'll paying you three, four, $5 million. I don't know what, I'm just using, obviously, three numbers. That's not. That's not how this works.

00:31:13
Right? So I don't like her. I don't believe what she. If you weren't okay to perform, then you should never went and should never take on a spot from somebody that deserved it.

00:31:27
All right, fair enough. And again, mental health, obviously, we talked about, is so important to me. And it's people like that who, you know, you know, change it for the wrong ways. Right. They could do so many good, you know?

00:31:50
Well, that. That's what really to you, because she could do so much, and you don't see that she's on. She's not on the right side. And not saying that there's a right or wrong side, you don't feel like it's the authentic side. Correct.

00:32:01
And everybody wants to go protect their image. Look at me. Right. It's. If you tell the truth, in the long run, you're gonna help so many more people, you know, and, you know, everybody's this.

00:32:20
Right. There's many more people that are struggling that would have benefited more by, you know, telling it, you know, just like I think, you know, Tyron woods, you know, that car crash wasn't on, you know, wasn't an accident, you know, different prospect didn't, you know, being a professional athletes, a different perspective, just understanding. But if people would be honest and people would not judge. Book by the COVID because of no Lyles, right? As he won that gold medal last night, yo, he talked about having dyslexia, depression, anxiety, and allergies.

00:33:01
And ADHd. And ADHd. And the comments underneath there were disgusting. It was. We could use every negative adjective there is.

00:33:17
Remember the ones like, oh, how did you even run between the lines? If you're dyslexic and you should be in the paraplegics or the special Olympics or whatever. And that. And for him, and that's the opposite. Like, he, you know, he was.

00:33:30
He wasn't. He was telling what I have. This is what my journey is. This is what I had to go through to get here, right. You know, and all those comments were from people who, with no understanding about us, what we have to live with, right.

00:33:45
And this goes back to what we started, you know, this whole podcast about. Right. You know, understanding. And it was flabbergasting to some of the things that were being said. Of course I wanted to chime in there and I wasn't allowed.

00:33:59
Yeah. But again, they don't see it how it is. They don't understand us. So that's why those comments were made. Yes.

00:34:11
And now some people think that he's arrogant because I have heard that and because of some of the comments. I don't know at all what. Right. And I don't even. Yeah.

00:34:21
Purpose right there. He may be arrogant and I ain't cocky and I hate those kind of people. But that statement here, what he said had nothing to do with, you know, being arrogant. It was right. Telling people like you and I or every one of us who has these kind of things, you can do it.

00:34:35
So there was no arrogancy behind it. And my thing is, okay, he might be seeming to be coming off arrogant, but what he has gone through to get where he is, if he, you know, I don't know what severity of his dyslexia is when he got diagnosed or anything. We don't really know any of that. I mean, I would actually love to have him on the podcast and ask him because it is one of those things that his arrogance might be. And I don't want to say like a you as arrogant because he didn't.

00:35:05
Not to me. No. So that it wasn't in that race. It was things that I guess he has said in the past, like he's comment and I have to look it up because I don't know the actual story. I just, in talking to people and I was like, oh, wait, why don't you like, you know what?

00:35:22
And they didn't say they didn't like him. They're like, oh, he's there again. And I was like, oh, I didn't see. I think he's flashy and I don't think that, you know, some, it might not be my style, but it's not like it's a new generation. Right?

00:35:32
Yeah, yeah. And, you know, so whatever he said before, I don't know, you know, I didn't see any of those comments, but this one specific comment where everybody was attacking him, there was no arrogance, our cockiness to those. No. And, and he's basically saying he's overcome a lot to get where he's been. And that's like people were making fun of his allergies.

00:35:54
Like, well, what are allergies have to do if he had terrible allergies and he had to, like, adjust his life and people didn't understand and made him different, those are right there. Adhd, dyslexia you know, anxiety, depression made him different. And if he's been suffering from these, obviously, as, since a kid, you know, whether he was diagnosed or not, he still. He still internalizes and knows what was going on. These are things that probably fueled.

00:36:19
And again, I'm not putting words into his mouth fueled him to be the best in what he's doing because he was like, I have a goal. I want to do this right. And he focused on that to do that. I mean, just seeing his mom in the stands after I read that, I was like, oh, my gosh. Because I understand it.

00:36:35
Like, my kid's been through the wringer with injuries and all these different things, and knowing that he's getting to play and following a dream because of his hard work, because of, in my opinion, his dyslexia, he knows what hard work is, right? It's like, you know that. And you know what? Hard work is not that. For that.

00:36:57
That kid Noah and his. And his family. Like, that's. That's pretty fucking awesome. And if he's gonna cheer and like, yeah, he just went through it.

00:37:04
I don't know. Again, I don't know the comments that were made before, but apparently he was maybe putting other athletes down for other reasons. I don't know. I gotta find out. Let's address that.

00:37:15
Right? That's a self esteem, right? Right. She right there. So misunderstood.

00:37:22
Right. Yo. Is it right again, I talked about being a bully. You know, I've talked about this, you know, being bullied, and I bullied people. Right.

00:37:31
Him making fun of other people is a pure result of him having, you know, bad self esteem, because it's. And right or wrong. Right. I mean, wrong. Right, exactly.

00:37:42
Right. Right. Yeah. There's a reason. There's a why.

00:37:45
Right. So it's not clear. Yeah, it's not right. But just trying to lay out the understanding of, you know, you know, why he was doing it. Because if you're in a bad place, you know, it's.

00:37:56
I'm gonna make them feel worse, so I feel better, you know? Is it right? No. Right, totally. But again, the comments were so ignorant, and it's really funny.

00:38:08
I never. I'm not like a comment reader. I mean, I think there's Gen. Like, my daughter will read. Like, she has her book talks and stuff, and she'll read comments, and she always says she's like, instagram is really mean, mom.

00:38:19
She goes, they have really mean comments. And I was like, oh, I don't really. I'm not someone that reads comments, so I don't even know why I went into the comment section, but like, the first three, I was like, wait, what? This is insane. They're like making fun of him, you know?

00:38:32
And I clicked on it to see what the rest of his story was in. Right? What, you know? Yes. Like, see that kind of stuff.

00:38:43
So that's why I end up, I don't read, you know, I don't read comments here. So that's why I end up kind of going there in the first one, right out of the gates. I'm like, whoa, hound doggy. What is this? Yeah, special olympics or something.

00:38:55
So rude. Again, I think being the dyslexia side, obviously, I started kind of digging a little bit more because I knew live it every day, people aren't going to understand. Yeah, totally. Paralympics, come on. Because they were like, what does this have to do with running?

00:39:11
That's what they kept saying, like, what. What does this have to do with running? Just because you're just, you know, whatever. And it. He.

00:39:17
You were the fastest man in the world. You just don't, you know, it's not running, yo, you work. And, and I don't mean to interrupt you, but when I read it, like, I was like, oh, I get it. This. I understand this guy has been through the fucking wringer and he was like, I'm, I have a goal and I'm going to, I'm going to prove to myself where my self worth, worth is and I'm going to work hard to get it.

00:39:44
And he obviously had a talent, but like, to me, I was like, oh, I get it. But, you know, there's a difference between running and being the fastest in the world. Yeah. Right? Are we going to go on this driveway and race down there?

00:39:55
Right there. We're in the mall. First one in the car wins. Whoever touches you get to front seat. That's running, right.

00:40:02
Not being the fastest in worlds, being that is not running. So there's a big misconception because there's a big difference in the effort and time again. And you understand that. You, like, you understand that also at a different level than I even understand it, right. But that's like, when you saw that, you sent it to me and it was a, you know, it was an ESPN reposted it, but also ESPN should have turned the comments off when they saw, like, the hate coming.

00:40:32
Like, whoever is in charge of that maybe should have been like, you know, people always, yo, I, you know, kids like, yo, I work out. I work out. I'm like, oh, you work out? Really? Right?

00:40:41
You know, I said I used to ride the bike in the sauna for an hour as a warm up. Yeah, no, I'd get on a bike and get my highway to 100 6570, ride there for an hour, two or three, four days. Oh, do you work hard? Oh, you do, yeah. But after, so after that hour, then what was your, then a full out, you know, hour, hour and a half gym workout, and then skate it, you know, and then skate, you know, or, you know, towards my, my end, I used to do, um, big, long circuits.

00:41:17
So for 1 hour, I stopped, you know, I wouldn't stop. Burn anywhere from a thousand to 1500 calories. Right. And then you'll probably, you know, hop on the bike, do cardio, and then, you know, skate that, you know, skate that same day. So, you know, people like, I used to have.

00:41:33
So, yo, I'd set up, you know, anywhere from ten to 15 different stations. It was all lightweight. I pick a number of reps, so everyone was the same rep. So again, you're going nonstop. So, you know, say it was ten reps for everything.

00:41:50
Only thing that was different was, you know, jump rope and squats. So maybe it'd be 500 jump ropes and 500 air squats and then ten of everything else do that for 1 hour, you know. So 10,000 squats right now. Sometimes I do it with a weight vest. Um, or I get on the go, you know, those.

00:42:11
Lighten those. Letting those big, thick bands put in your legs. Right. And put two of those on my legs and then ride the elliptical for an hour. Right.

00:42:21
Now. Did other players work that hard? Well, to be again, you know, average career, obviously, in hockey's five years, you know, I last at 18. So did I go above and beyond? Yeah, you know, I had to, right?

00:42:39
Yeah. Do you guys work hard? Absolutely. Did I have to work harder? Did I have to do crate?

00:42:44
You know, I couldn't work out in a normal gym. People sit there and watch, you know, if I wanted a quick workout, I'd come in and put two, two and a five on the bar and do that. Hard times or, you know, like, just things that people like, you know, sit there and watch because it's what we had to do to train. It just isn't going in there and, yeah, you know, it's own there. You know, it was, you know, there's a lot of days that it hurt.

00:43:12
You know, I train between, you know, four and six in the morning and ride the bike in the sauna for an hour, then go work out of, like, you work hard or so you want to run? You want to go a little race there? You know, first one, you know, touches a car, gets front seat. Big difference. Yeah.

00:43:29
Like, you. Right. You know, the. The effort that that kid put in. Um, and that was a great.

00:43:34
That was a crazy race, too, because I was like, I did. And I was like, it doesn't even look like he placed. So the other thing is, that was really cool is that he, um. He. He picks up speed.

00:43:46
Like, I was like, I don't. Oh, my God, he's not gonna make it. And I literally. I. In years past, I follow the Olympics.

00:43:54
I enjoy it. And this. That. This year, just. Life is busy that I really haven't, you know, I, like, usually watch Olympics.

00:44:00
I refuse to watch olympics, you know, with the bullshit that they got going on. So. Only thing I would watch golf because, yo, I didn't sleep much this weekend, so it's a time change, but I refuse to watch any olympics. Right. Yes.

00:44:15
And I was. I didn't make a. I wasn't like, oh, I'm not. Or I am. I just.

00:44:21
It hasn't fit in my schedule just because I've been traveling and knowing, like, you know, doing all the stuff, you know, obviously, you know, gymnastics in her other watch, I'm like, yes. Yo, and I've watched some of it. I have to say, I've caught some of it. But I did catch that, because I was sitting on the couch, like, okay. And.

00:44:40
And it. And it was on. So Hahn and I were, like, sitting, watching, and I think we even watched, like, the replay. I don't even know. As we were, like, kind of scrolling.

00:44:47
It was a replay because it's an amount of time forward. Right, right. Thanks. Thank you. You're welcome.

00:44:52
See? Yes. I didn't. I didn't. Now that you said that.

00:44:55
Hahn had said that, but it was a close, like, it was because the jamaican guy really looked like he was ahead, but no, also knew how to finish. Like, he just knew how to throw his body. Like, everything that he did, his coach. That was brilliant, because. Details.

00:45:14
It was that. It was the details. Yep. You details everything, you know, in life, sports, your relationships, details everything. And most people don't want to do details.

00:45:30
Most people, you know, we're talking about youth. Youth in sports, people don't coach the details. Parents don't see the tales. They don't understand the details. So most kids don't have the details.

00:45:41
Right. And the details are really important. The small little details are. That's what. That's what that.

00:45:47
That's what that kid won. It was his finish. And I didn't hear anyone else speak about it, so I could be completely wrong. And I'm not an expert in track and field, but watching that race and seeing at the end, I was like, oh, so it was. He did a slight lean because everything else seemed like.

00:46:02
And his stride looked a little bit longer. It was definitely cool, but happy for him, probably more. And maybe that's like, maybe I'm, what's the word? Favoring him because I know what he went through as a kid just from that post. And then seeing the comments, I was like, God, a bunch of dicks out there.

00:46:24
A bunch of haters and dicks. I mean, really, that's foundation right there. That's the podcast is they don't have understanding. You know, it's, you know, you hear interviews and, you know, media like all click cliche answers. They're cliche for a reason.

00:46:40
Right. Because they're true. Yeah. And that's. The cliches are the details.

00:46:45
Mm hmm. Yeah. All right. Did you have anything else you wanted to add?

00:46:53
I could go back and I got some rabbit holes to go down with you with your ears painted on. But. But we'll just, we're going to. We're going to stop and we can talk about it. It's funny how that works.

00:47:05
Oh, did we show your hair?

00:47:10
So you know that we hit the 10,000. So mister white snake over there. I kind of like it. I kind of like it. Looks like you had a little sun in there.

00:47:26
And then what are we doing? Why don't we end with, like, what we're doing for. Oh, yeah, for August's campaign. Yeah. You know, obviously so lucky enough to partner up with NHL Charity foundation.

00:47:38
They have allowed us to have the Stanley cup for an event in October here in Chicagoland. So what we're doing is for every 25 donation to the foundation, you get your name into a draw for two tickets to dinner with the Stanley cup. So you put your name, you know, $50. That's, you know, that's two names and a half. So we're going to do that for the month of August and see how many names and see who the lucky winner is to have dinner with Lord Stanley.

00:48:06
Yeah. Which is great. And we have a whole. And if you're. If you're someone that's also like, wait, I want to do it, but if I don't win, I still want to be a part of it.

00:48:14
There are tickets being sold, so reach out to infofoundation.org is the. Yeah, they're all.org. okay. And be sobel. Be [email protected].

00:48:28
or [email protected]. dot perfect. Okay. Yeah. I mean, and that's, you know, for July, we hit the seven, seven, seven.

00:48:36
And then we're like, how many more kids can we help that month? And there's people that were like, oh, I didn't do it. And I wanted to be a part of it. So Brent said, I'll do something if we hit 10,000. And, and there was a lot of going back and forth, what he was going to do.

00:48:50
And he dyed the hair so and so for August. So this is kind of fun. We maybe will do other things where we'll see stuff. We shall see, right? You know, stay tuned.

00:49:03
Yeah, exactly. Stay tuned. So thank you guys for listening to another episode of word blind kindness. Dyslexia exposed. You know what I say every single time?

00:49:11
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